Ursula Tchaylakian: A Legacy of Service and Sacrifice

Ursula, a founding pupil of St Margaret's College, was awarded the King’s Medal in 1951. This prestigious honour recognised her extraordinary contributions to the war effort during World War II, particularly in supporting New Zealand servicemen stationed in Egypt.

Married to an Armenian, Aschod Tchaylakian, Ursula lived in a large family compound in Matarieh, Cairo. During the war, she demonstrated remarkable generosity by providing hospitality to servicemen and women, particularly those from New Zealand. Her home became a sanctuary for soldiers in need of comfort and respite from the hardships of war.

Recognising the importance of morale and welfare, Ursula established a Red Cross operation and maintained an open-door policy for all ranks of servicemen stationed at the New Zealand camp in Helmiea, near Heliopolis in the Egyptian desert. She organised a canteen, distributed care packages, and took charge of social activities to uplift the spirits of those serving far from home. Beyond logistical support, she played a crucial role in ensuring the mental and emotional wellbeing of soldiers, arranging entertainment, organising excursions to historic sites, and facilitating the shipment of gifts to families back in New Zealand.

Her enduring compassion extended to the wounded and shell-shocked soldiers. Ursula regularly visited hospital tents, offering comfort and companionship to those recovering from the trauma of war. Her unwavering dedication to their well-being made a profound impact on countless lives.

The King’s Medal for Services in the Cause of Freedom was introduced in 1945 to recognise extraordinary civilians and non-combatants who played a significant role in the fight against tyranny during World War II. It was a distinction awarded to individuals who demonstrated exceptional commitment to supporting the Allied forces in various capacities. Ursula's contributions embodied the spirit of this medal, highlighting her selflessness and support for New Zealand troops.

Ursula's legacy lives on through her family. Her daughters, Vivian and Diana Etmekdjian, who both reside in Vancouver, are cousins of St Margaret’s College alumni Janet Shand (née Tothill) and the late John and Tom Tothill. In 1959, during a trip to England, Janet first saw the medal and learned about Ursula's remarkable service.

Decades later, in 2015, after discussing the medal in one of their frequent phone calls, Diana had asked Janet if she would like them.  Having discovered that St Margaret’s was compiling an ANZAC display Janet asked Diana if the girls would like to donate the medal to their mother’s school. They were overjoyed with the idea, Diana saying that Ursula would have been delighted to see her medal return to her alma mater, stating, “Anything about New Zealand would make her eyes sparkle.” Janet arranged for her brother Tom to collect the medal during an overseas trip, ensuring its safe delivery to St Margaret’s.

Ursula's family maintains a deep connection with St Margaret’s. Janet’s daughter, Annabel Shand, also attended the College and remains actively involved with the school as a St Margaret’s College Old Girls’ Association (SMCOGA) member and as a financial advisor to the St Margaret’s College Foundation. Janet herself continues to contribute to the school community, recently handcrafting House teddies for the Junior School.

The Tothill family’s legacy at St Margaret’s extends further still. Tom’s first wife, Elspeth (née McAlpine), was an Old Girl and previously served as a Trust Board member and President of SMCOGA. Their daughter, Virginia, was Head Prefect, while Tom’s granddaughters - Kate, Lucy, and Biddy Tothill - have all attended St Margaret’s.

The King’s Medal for Services in the Cause of Freedom remains a powerful symbol of sacrifice, service, and dedication. Ursula’s contributions during World War II exemplify the spirit of resilience and generosity that defined an era. Her selfless efforts in supporting New Zealand servicemen not only earned her a distinguished honour but also left an indelible mark on those she helped. Now, with her medal proudly displayed at St Margaret’s, her legacy continues to inspire future generations in Dedication to a Higher Purpose.